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Mother’s Day is
celebrated the second Sunday in the month of May in most
countries. Cards, flowers and gifts shower many mothers
around the world each year to celebrate motherhood. I never
understood motherhood or mothers for that matter until I
became one….twice. After the birth of my first son, I
wished so much to call my mother to apologize to her and to
thank her but she had already passed away early in my
life.
Relationships in
general are a large part of why people decide to seek
counseling. Most of those relationships are based upon the
role of a mother in one’s life. Not knowing who you came
from remains a mystery in many lives and then others feel
emotional pain of not having a mother or a mother they
desire to have. These emotions often cause individuals a
significant heartfelt loss. This is the type of pain and
loss that can affect how we function in life such as
relationships and parenthood and our perspective on life in
general.
Not knowing who you
came from can feel worse than not knowing where you came
from. Many clients I have worked with in the past make
comments about not being wanted by their mother, being hurt
by their mother or left by their mother. It is natural to
wish for comforting feelings of a mother but is it just as
natural to the feelings that rely within being a mother?
Many women choose not to or are unable to carryout the role
of motherhood point blank; something out of our control.
Take a mental health
moment to process the thought that we were all mothered to
some point even if it was just through pregnancy and birth
and regardless of our mother- relationship status, our lives
have purpose and meaning. Motherhood may always be a
mystery to some; but purpose and meaning of our lives comes
from our souls….and we all have one of those to our own
control.
Bernadette Graham is
a Licensed Professional Mental Health Counselor, National
Certified Counselor and Certified Grief Recovery
Specialist. Provide feedback or reach out at
graham.bernadette@gmail.com For appointment information
please call 419.409.4929 (Telehealth is available for
ongoing and new clients at this time).
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